Ugly people and reality television

196 pounds

I just watched the Project Runway season finale, and it was killer. The three contestants all sent amazing collections down the runway at Fashion Week, and the moments leading up to the announcement of the winner were possibly the most dramatic in the show's history.

But I want to talk about something that happened in the reunion show that aired right after the finale.

Some of these reality shows can get pretty catty, but for the most part, the Project Runway designers keep things relatively harmless. Yes, they GO OFF on each other's work, but it never gets truly ugly and almost never personal.

Until tonight.

There was one designer—Jay Nicolas Sario—who found out that his work had been heavily criticized by a model named Cerri, and after watching the clip in which she said he should be designing for blonde women in L.A., Jay said this to her:

"And I wouldn't hire a model with thick legs and bad teeth."

I teach writing, and one of my favorite lessons is the one on fallacies. Jay's comment is what is commonly known as a personal attack, people, and it's designed to change the subject from the issue at hand and cripple the other person with self-doubt.

And it belongs in high school.

Yes, Cerri's comment was tough, but what Jay said was simply cruel and worse than that it was personal. Cerri criticized his work, but Jay criticized her as a person.

Which makes me wonder—what the hell is wrong with people?! And why on earth would someone say something so incredibly ugly on national television? And, furthermore, do people really act like they're still fifteen?

Honestly, I feel like Jay felt comfortable saying what he did because Cerri is a woman. If she had been a man, I don't think he would have ever gotten so personal. Unfortunately, we live in a country where it's acceptable to attack women for their looks but men don't often get held to those same standards. And attacking this amazingly beautiful woman's looks (see the picture above) is kind of like saying Martin Luther King, Jr. wasn't selfless enough.

In other words, it's complete horse shit.

But it gets better.

WAY better.

I logged onto my favorite blog of all time—Project Rungay—to say how much Jay's comments bothered me and that I would never wear his clothes as a result, and here is the response I got from a commenter who will go unnamed:

"Molly McCALFrey, no need to worry about wearing Jay's clothes anyway. Yo fat heifa ass couldn't fit into 8 of his outfits stitched together."

I am not making this up.

Someone actually wrote this about me on a blog (or the comments on a blog). Honestly, I don't know if I should laugh or cry. I mean, it's so ridiculous that it's funny, and it's so awful that I actually feel more sorry for the person who said it than I do for myself. I mean, really how unhappy do you have to be to say something that nasty?

Well, I figured that I had to respond, had to show I didn't care what some stranger thought about me, so here's what I said:

"Marion, I have to disagree—I feel confident I could fit into two of Jay's outfits stitched together."

Bottom line: I REFUSE to be ashamed of my body or my weight, and I will celebrate it no matter what anyone says about me.

Enough said.

File this under f****d up

192 pounds

Amanda Seyfried—star of Dear John, Mamma Mia!, Big Love, and Mean Girls—has announced that the only way she can stay thin enough to work in Hollywood is to stick to a strict raw-food diet and exercise all the time.

As Seyfried told Esquire magazine this week, "It's intense. And sort of awful. Yesterday for lunch? Spinach. Just spinach. Spinach and some seeds."

Spinach and some seeds?

I'm sorry, but that is completely fucked up.

A fact so obvious that even Seyfried has to admit it.

"'If I didn't run and work out, there's no way I would be this thin,' Seyfried told Glamour magazine. 'But I have to stay in shape because I'm an actress. It's f****d up and it's twisted, but I wouldn't get the roles otherwise. If I'd been a bit bigger, I don't think they would have cast me for Mamma Mia!'"

I've been a fan of Seyfried since she first starred as the already dead Lilly Kane on Veronica Mars (shown below), and I do remember that on that show, she seemed the tiniest bit curvy.

But now, as you can see in the top photo, Seyfried's clearly much, much thinner than she used to be, making Lilly dead in more ways than one.

Seyfried is obviously beautiful at either weight, but hearing her admit that she is basically starving herself breaks my heart. Yes, this is a sad, sad day for someone who believes that dieting is one of the most unhealthy things we can do to ourselves, and it's especially frustrating to hear about Amanda's INSANE diet because she has also claimed that men can't make women feel glamorous, and that feeling attractive has to come "from inside."

What I want to know is how could a woman so smart be so . . . oh, forget it.

I feel for Seyfried. I really do, and I sincerely hope that she will realize that no job—even a job being a world famous actress—is worth giving up cooked food.